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Marriage is like any other kind of relationship which has also some fights. This is basically because marriage is composed of two different people with different thoughts, feelings and principles. Not to mention that they are both humans who is prone to mistakes.

Therefore, fighting is somehow normal in a marriage, but what makes it unhealthy is how you fight. So before going to round one, consider these preparations.

Choose the right place

Street fighting is only for immature people. It is also only for dogs and cats, as well as for other uneducated creatures. Home is best place to fight, so waiting for your spouse to come home is just decent enough. Besides, you need time to prepare the issues just as your spouse needs to. Even an admitted murderer has to be convicted in the right court.

Fight alone

You are not going into a boxing match so you do not need a referee. Your fight should be between you and you alone. Showing to your children that you are fighting is such a big mistake. You are just going to confuse and scare them especially if they are the reason why you fight. But the most important thing is you are unintentionally teaching them to be war freak.

Be fair

In any fighting competition, fairness is a must. Tell your spouse in advance that you need to talk. Fight about the current issues only and never bring the old ones. Never speak hurting words. Doing some physical act is sign being a true coward, which means you are just using your strength to push the issue, not to settle it. Being angry to your spouse does not mean you do not love him or her. It only means that there is something worth to be angry for. Give also your spouse the chance to explain his/her side.

Have a break

Cool down a bit if the fight is getting hot. Rest for a couple of minutes and drink some water. Do some logical thinking because you are might be getting too harsh, maybe your spouse has a good reason why the mistake was made, or circumstances had permitted your spouse has to do so. While you are resting, you might want also to consider your own mistakes.

Have a compromise

The fight will not end if you will not end it. But if you will meet each other in the middle then you are going to end a good fight. You did not fight to win, you fight because you want to correct things and not be able to commit the same mistake again. Learn to forgive each other and learn from each other mistake. This is the biggest factor to maintain a successful marriage.

Fighting can also be a way to show how much you love each other.

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