Lets Talk about Sex Baby
Did I excite you with the title? Of course I did, if you have malice in your brain. But I am sorry that you are guessing the wrong point. This may not be the post that you are longing for, but this can be very helpful if you are a concerned parent like me.
Sex, as what most people may think that it is only an adult topic but is for children too. In fact, they are more curious about it than we are. This is why most parents are bothered when their children ask them about sex. With this, I made some research and here is what I learned.
Start as early as possible
We can include this while we are teaching them the parts of the human body like the eyes, hands and other. We must not let him or her feel that there is something to be ashamed of However; we need to be gentle when we teach the sensitive parts. We must be careful in choosing the right words at the right time. We must also include that they should not be should not be shown publicly. But don’t get excited. As your child grows, he will be more aware about this gradually.
Avoid using nicknames
I must admit, this is the one I am guilty of. I learned that when the child older reach the age of 3, it is better if you do not use colorful nicknames for their private parts. Vagina and penis are not bad words as long as you use them properly. By using the right term, we will get to use to it without any embarrassment. But if you don’t and they will hear the correct ones from others, he will get confused and may wonder why you have to hide it.
Start the baby talk
By the age of 6, children will start to be curious when they see pregnant women. During this age, we can start explaining to them how babies are being made. Obviously, we need not to explain what lovemaking is all about. But it is just alright when we tell them about a men’s sperm and a woman’s egg joining together. However, they must understand that babies should only be a product of love. In this way, they can also start to realize that sex is sacred. This is very important when your child is in their early teens.
Learn other strategies
Most of the time; it feels awkward to discuss sex with our children. This is why we should learn different strategies. Each child has to be treated uniquely when it comes to sex talk. There are a lot of books to use when discussing it to your child. You can also ask assistance from professionals and experts about this matter. If you are a first-time parent, ask help from your parent. If you are a single parent and your child is of opposite sex, request a trusted relative to do this for you.
What our child don’t know might hurt them, but how they learn it can hurt them more.
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Nice post! because I have a baby (first child) about 1,5 years old. I interest to this post and will keep it in my mind. Thank you for sharing.
I really resonate with the part about not using nicknames. The fewer opportunities we have to introduce shame into our childrens’ lives, the stronger their sense of confidence and esteem will be.
My son isn’t even 2 yet, but he knows what a penis is. He can’t say “penis” but he can identify his or anothers clearly when the word is said.
And the beautiful thing is, he doesn’t know it as “private” or “different.” He has no shame about his penis… just curiosity. And given he’s going to have it for his entire life, I wish that he continues to have as much curiosity and as little shame in his life in all aspects.
A lot of people say that when Jesus said we must be like children to enter the kingdom of Heaven, that what he really meant is that we must foster a sense of deep curiosity, like children have, if we want to experience Heaven here on Earth while we are alive.
Chris – I wish I realized my tip about nicknames when my children were not yet born.I am just glad to have you here.
We share the same values on this topic. We decided early on that we wanted to be the ones to talk with them about sex rather than the boy or girl down the street. For the most part it has been successful except for the time my daughter asked my wife what those products are that women use. My wife metered out a nine year old age appropriate answer. Later that night, I went to tuck my daughter in and she burst into tears. When I asked her what was wrong she cried, “I only what to know what they were not what they were used for!” I quickly went and got her mother to clear up the matter.
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This is a nice corner for bloggers raising kids. These pointers are indeed helpful. I myself had my own ways on how to make them understand these concepts as I have 3 girls and 1 boy. I even created an animated presentation just to aid my explanation and it’s very effective
Juliet
Umm…Errr…I’m an old fogey. I believe my hubby and I didn’t start discussing sex with our children until they were at least 14. Body parts was earlier than that, but not at age 3. I’m guilty of using nicknames. I wish such advice existed then, perhaps, I might have handled the issues differently.
Tasha
what is funny among us Pinoys is we cannot say the private parts using our own language but it is easy for us to say them in English. i do not understand how the private parts become malicious saying them in Tagalog.
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