How to Choose the Top Bloggers you must Socialize with
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It is a fact that there are top bloggers who are much superior to us. They have placed themselves in a safe pedestal where we can always look up to. They are the icons of this industry and gained a lot of respect from fellow bloggers. While there is no need to mention names as we already know who they are, it is interesting to know that we can still socialize with them in spite of their high status.
Although it will be a great advantage for us to do that, we should still choose them carefully. Here are some important factors that I believe we must consider first.
If they are sociable
Top bloggers are very busy and some of them do not have time to socialize with small time bloggers. Therefore, it will be a waste of time to socialize with them. Although some of them do not read other blogs that much, we can still call them sociable if they allow us to leave comments on their posts, post on their forum, or if they are active members of social sites. But we must understand that we are not socializing with them just to promote our blog, we are also doing this because we want to learn more.
If they are unselfish
Let us admit it, they worked so hard to reach their status and it is just alright when they do not share all of their secrets. However, this is very far from being selfish. We must be a keen observer when we read their posts, and we must be smart enough to read between the lines. It hurts but I have seen some of them who use their status to abuse other bloggers. Remember that socializing with them also helps them to be more popular through link building, increase in subscription and commentators.
If they provide useful information
I hate to say this but not all of them provide useful information. Some of them just got lucky and build a distinct image that made them successful, if we can call that success. Socializing with them can make you popular too, but what good it is if you are not learning from them. Socializing is sharing ideas, knowledge and techniques. And since they are ahead of us, they must know better than we do. Before buying their e-books and other stuff, you must do some research first.
If they are trustworthy
Read their About page as it can tell you his history, previous jobs and personality. Another good trait of knowing that you can trust them is when they post their pictures on their blogs, and when they use their real names on their blogs. However, some of them decide to hide their real identity to protect their privacy. Privacy is a personal choice and I respect their decision. Anyway, you can ask older bloggers who might know about them. Check their businesses and advertisers.
My conclusion
While we must be good in choosing them, it would be unfair for them if the relationship will be a one-way street. Again, socializing is all about sharing, communicating, and give and take. So do not abuse the chance when you meet them. Be transparent and observe courtesy. Share some things that you know, and give what you can give. After all, you still have some things that they do not have.
Socializing is for everybody, but not everybody can socialize.
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Chelle posted: 30 Oct at 1:40 am
I think networking with other bloggers can help a lot - especially if you take turns guest posting or working on additional projects. But at the same time, not everybody on the web is worth socializing with - some are not as nice as they seem to be!
Snow posted: 30 Oct at 2:06 am
very nice article sir angel. you know sir, i’ve started blogging since 2007 but i consider myself as a newbie blogger because i still need to learn a lot from the top bloggers. anyway, this article is a good guide for me should i want to be serious with blogging.
as for the privacy matters sir —> i have to comment on that po. you see sir angel, i was sort of a victim of stalking before (i’ll tell you should we meet again) so i guess privacy is a good choice sometimes.
just my two cents here.
Angel Cuala posted: 30 Oct at 2:56 am
Chelle - I agree with the guest posting part. That is why I treasure my guest posts at Blogging Tips dot Com so much. And yes, it is sad that some bloggers are pretending to be nice but actually, they’re not. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Snow - I think you mentioned something about the stalking issue when we were chatting at the event. As I mentioned in my post, privacy is a choice and I can respect bloggers who choose not be publicly exposed. By the way, did you really post your comment at 2am?
Well, I suppose you’re not like me - blogger by day, but mostly at night…lol! Hope to see you again in another blogging event.
Ambo posted: 30 Oct at 10:39 am
Socializing is for everybody, but not everybody can socialize. - Agree on this. But somehow, leaving your footprints on their blogs is a good source of “lets say a little” traffic for your blog. That’s why i am doing. If they ignore me, i don’t really care. That’s life, we cannot please everybody to like us hehe. Thanks for this wonderful article - can i call you “Tatay”.
edelweiza posted: 30 Oct at 3:10 pm
good points father. i believe socializing should always be a learning and worthwhile experience.it is just saddening to hear that some popular bloggers can be mean and give limitations as to the extent with which they forge a social relationship with less popular bloggers.
Angel Cuala posted: 30 Oct at 4:58 pm
Ambo - You’re absolutely correct. Nobody can please everybody. I believe it’s your birthday yesterday and you’re now 29, right? Since I am already 42 (hu! hu! hu!), that’s make me 13 years older than you so I am a bit young to be your “tatay”.
But what the heck! I don’t care, I would like to be called “tatay” rather than to call me “father”. It makes me feel like a priest…lol! Happy Birthday, anyway!
Edelweiza (what a name!) - Kidding aside, this is the reason why I thought of making this post. I had a “bad” experience from a “top” blogger in which I thought he was really on top. Then, I learned that it is only in his head. By the way, I would love if you will call me Angel instead of Father. After all, it’s my real nickname.
Besides, mas bagay daw akong anghel kesa sa pari, sabi ng mahal kong inay! lol!
Snow posted: 30 Oct at 5:53 pm
@fatherblogger - yep, you are indeed correct. the comment was really posted at 2am. i have ridiculous working schedule kasi and sometimes, when i can’t sleep…i just blog and/or bloghop to read my fellow blogger’s articles. food for the brain.
Fatherlyours posted: 30 Oct at 8:03 pm
Snow sa beauty mo na yan,madami talaga mag stalker sa iyo. And to Angel, I don’t think you are referring to me as the top blogger? To Ambo, I thing Tatay Angel is better.I agree with you edelweiza.Now this is what i call guest comment to Angel. Now only a name, soon to be a legend.-?- Peace man!
Ambo posted: 31 Oct at 5:42 pm
Naku it’s ok Tatay kasi di naman halatang 42, mukhang 41 lang hahaha. Anyways, thanks po sa greetings at sa lahat ng iba pang bumati. Kakatuwa kasi parang iisa lang ang grupo natin. Sana maging close pa tayong lahat!
Snow posted: 31 Oct at 6:01 pm
@fatherlyours - sir, hindi biro sir magkaroon ng stalker! alam mo, dati nga akong moderator sa isang forum pero nag-resign ako kasi dun ako nagkaroon ng stalker, mala-psycho ang utak! huhuhu… kuwento ko sa iyo buong pangyayari kapag nagkita ulit tayo. hay, pero honestly, nakakalungkot alalahanin, dami ko ring naiwang friends dun sa forum na yun. pero mas ok na yun kaysa naman magulo niya ako ng tuluy-tuluyan!
@ambo - tumpak! hindi naman halatang nasa 40s na si fatherblogger! at korek ka pa rin na para ngang nasa iisang circle lang tayo dito. i can relate to that!
ceblogger posted: 31 Oct at 6:24 pm
i don’t think i have to choose whom to socialize with. whoever blogger comes my way, I’d be glad to meet them. i met with some cebu-based bloggers in the past, and didn’t mind their blogging status (some are newbies). met bloggista (in makati and cebu) and javi of http://thirdworldgeek.com. Ngayon lang medyo busy ako that is why i missed the event in Cebu.
any blogging meets in november or december? hehe. I’ll be in manila next week, and will be permanently assigned there starting third week of november. As to personal info, I kept a minimum in my about me page. my footer contains a not-so clear pic of myself in a winter attire (kahit na shot in cebu).
Angel Cuala posted: 31 Oct at 11:27 pm
Cebbloger - My post does not suggests to choose who we must socialize with, as I am also socializing with all kinds of blogger. However, it only suggests how to choose them. And besides, I am only talking about top bloggers and not newbies.
I heard about a Halloween party for bloggers but for sure, it is now going on. I am also waiting for more events and hopefully, we could finally meet.
Thanks!
Alain Theriault posted: 04 Nov at 2:53 am
Great post Father. I’m a new blogger and I’ve learned that socializing with other bloggers is very important and not only for links exchange but mostly knowledge sharing.
Thanks!
Nicely posted: 04 Nov at 12:38 pm
hello po ulet. thanks for this writing this post. it’s very insightful.
sterndal posted: 04 Nov at 10:56 pm
hello! I’m a newbie and i thinking making friends with other bloggers have helped me a lot
i just make sure that i am sincere. cheers!
PJ posted: 05 Nov at 9:10 am
Nice article! I totally agree that some top bloggers just get lucky. Some even reach the top just by having a large network, even though their blog contents aren’t that useful or interesting at all. In fact, some of their contents are just a mash-up or a hash of articles from other sources.
Ada posted: 07 Nov at 1:36 am
I fell in love with this blog post father. It’s more delicious and juicy to interact with people who feeds you knowledge, experience, failures and laughter. Pero minsan, kakabigay mo ng knowledge, eh nagccrush sayo yung taong yun, inistalk ka pa. :p
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