What to do when your Spouse meets the Ex again
It is common to most married couples to have previous relationships before they got married. But what if your spouse accidentally crossed paths with the former sweetheart again? Then, you learned that the Ex is not yet married and still available. The problem is you seem to lose your good physique while the former sweetheart looked better than before.
Suddenly, the Ex becomes your neighbor or will be your spouse’ office mate. You will start to be insecure, and you will be scared of what might happen next. So before making any stupid action, I suggest you view the tips below and hopefully can clear your mind.
Do not be naive
Acting like a child will not help. Do not show any sign of insecurity because it will distract your feelings. You may not notice it but one day, you are getting paranoid about it. It is normal to be jealous a bit, but you should not get carried away. Do not be judgmental on what you will see. If you want to clear something, ask your spouse lovingly and talk about it calmly. Communication and trust always go together.
Maintain your composure
Of course there will always be a chance of infidelity. It may even be with another person. Do not to act silly in front of the Ex just to prove that you are the spouse. Your hubby might notice your sudden change, and it may be the cause of misunderstanding. It is best that you relax your mind. Then, be sure that you always look good.
Enjoy your status
To minimize your doubts, enjoy your status as the spouse. You have all the right to feel secured simply because you are married. If you see them together, do not show off or be conscious about it. Act naturally as if they were not former lovers. Never do something that might harm the former sweetheart. But as the spouse, it is important to know where they will go and what they will do.
Work harder
To reduce the possibility of being cheated, increase your effort to have a healthier marriage. Use your ability to do everything to make your spouse be always loyal to you. Have more quality time with your spouse and make the most of it. If the former sweetheart will have a chance to see you, prepare for it. The Ex should feel that your spouse married the right person.
Be a friend
To erase your fear, why not join the ride? Although it will make you feel weird at first, but befriending the Ex is a good idea. By doing this, you may feel safer and might realize that there is really nothing to worry about. Take is as an advantage on your part to learn more things about your spouse. You may even be surprise that the former sweetheart can also be your friend. After all, past is past and you are now the present.
Fear is only in the mind. Be your best, and you will forget it.
If you need more specific solutions to your troubled marriage, you can visit SaveMyMarriageToday.com
Related posts:
Battered Wives: Not Just a Problem of Physical Abuse
Taking care of your Children while Working at Home
How to Avoid Money from Destroying your Marriage
Healthy Ways to Fight with Your Spouse
How to Maintain Good Communication with a Busy Husband
Problems when you Marry your Best Friend
How to Handle Professional Rivalry with your Spouse
How to Maintain Good Communication with a Busy Husband
If you want to receive my future posts regularly for FREE, you can subscribe in a reader or by Email. If you have concerns, please do not hesitate to Contact Me anytime.
Posted in Succesful Marriage Tips
+of+Subscribers.JPG)
Partner delikado ang friendship na yan. Shade of “My Hisband’s Women”.Ako na meet ko ex-gf ko pero wala namang effect. nag hi! and hello lang kami.Beso-beso, chika-chika,pica-pica ganun lang. hehehe.Partner yung Beso-beso part and the rest joke na ha. baka maniwala ka.”Father” ako eh,behave lagi.
interesting topic. father blogger!
in my case, selos to death ang husband ko makita ko lang mga former suitors ko hanggang ngayon. anyway, like ko yun kasi it means na mahal na mahal niya pa rin ako. (naks!)
Mon – I can see that you’re a behave husband. It shows in you achievements as a father. Yung Ex ko, di ko alam kung nasaan na, but my wife knows her before pa. I don’t have any problems with the Ex of my wife, kasi wala naman e. Ako pers lab nya e…he3!
Snow – Your husband should be jealous. You don’t even look like you are married. I remember sabi ng friend at mrs ko nang makita yung photo natin, hawig mo daw si Lorna Tolentino. Sabi naman ng mrs ko, hawig ko daw si Daboy kaya lang…nung yumao na…lol!
Thanks for appreciating my post.
me and wifey don’t have exs. but she had suitors before who happened to be my friends too. they all failed
Snow – Tama si Angel, kamukha mo nga si Lorna T and siya naman si rudy F nung yumao na(sa biglang tingin ha).Anyway,aDati din ako jeling jeling sa mga friends ng wife ko pero na realize ko na nothing to worry about kasi kamukha ko daw is martin Nievera(nung nabugbug). hehehe
ceblogger – you must be very lucky man.Pareho pala tayo. dati rin kasi kaming playboy ni fatherblogger.Meaning laging naglalaro ng bahay-bahayan,tatay-tatayan.hehehe
naku thank you for the compliment fatherlyours and fatherblogger. *shy*
hahaha nakakatawa ang sitwasyon kapag nameet ng asawa mo ang ex nya. kung sakin mangyari un, mara-rattle talaga ako kasi baka bumalik ung feelings ng asawa ko sa ex nya. pano na ako di ba?
well, good thing is di pa sya nangyayari sa akin… dahil wala pa akong asawa. pero iniisip ko pa lang ung mga naging ex-bfs ko, mukhang exciting na yun… wahahaha!
we sometimes meet x-friends over coffee or lunch., had never been a real issue between me and husband..except when he would ask me “sino pinaka guapo sa aming lahat?” then i would answer, “kahit sino basta i won’t choose you”..
My husband don’t have EXES. I am his first girlfriend. But he had an affair during the early years of our marriage. I met the girl before but I did not know she was the b*itch! Then I saw her on friendster a few years ago. She apologizes and I have forgiven here. No more hurt feelings. And my hubby doesn’t know about it!
My hubby is very possessive even to male friends.