What if there is a Gay in the Family?
Yesterday, I saw on national TV that Rustom Padilla has finally changed his name to Bebe (not sure if I wrote it correctly). If you don’t know him, he is a good actor and was formerly married to a good actress but eventually discovered and admitted to everyone that he is a gay. I am not really fond of Showbiz scoops and intrigues, but I love reality and this post is not about Bebe. This is about having a gay in the family.
We all know that gays are now getting a lot of exposure, and the Filipinos are now starting to give them a wider space. So, what’s the point? Are we getting worst? Are the parents of today neglecting their children or just more open to reality? These are only some of the questions that the answers will depend on how you see things.
Come to think about it, why do parents not wish that their sons will be gay? Well, that includes me though. What’s wrong with being gay, anyway? Is still a mortal sin to be gay, or are we just a prisoner of our religion? Does GOD really send gays to hell? Does HE do the same for lesbians? If you watched the interview of Bebe’s mother (Mommy Eva Padilla), she said that she already accepted the fact, and just hope that Bebe will not do anything that GOD does not allow.
Again, let’s do some reality check. Who among us do everything that GOD wants to do, and is an honest-to-goodness a follower of the WORD of GOD? The first one to raise his hand is the one who is not doing it – a good and in-born defense mechanism, I guess. Who is here not guilty of sin except your innocent and cute little baby? All of us sinners, and that’s reality – whatever your religion is.
So, what’s the point again? Happiness is a choice and a right, as long as you’re not intentionally hurting anyone. If you cannot accept gays, then at least respect them. As a father, I would rather choose my son to be a useful gay when he grows up, rather than to be a corrupt government official, a drug pusher, or a ruthless criminal.
Being different does not mean it’s abnormal. It only means that it is the not the usual.
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Very well said my friend.
That’s right. If i were a parent, i would choose the same. Pero biblically, mahabang debate ito.
Very well said! He or she is my child, regardless of his gender/preference. I will be always there to give them my love and support. But I think their father feels differently and yes, its a long debate
i’m not gay. i’m a woman. ok. maybe not. a gurl. ok. well… whatever.
growing up, it’s tough to be gay in a sickly machismo pinoy mental-lity. gays are constantly being verbally harassed, treated as scum, a pig, a lowly shit, not-human, less intellect – all the negativities of life. include ridicules, bad jokes, ostracized and maligned. that’s the reason why parents want their kids to grow up straight. and i blame the church. the church. the church. this is one part that the church is dead wrong on the issue.
homosexuality is not a choice. we were born this way. we can’t do nothing about it. i’ve got friends who’ve tried going straight only to tell their wives they’re gay. now, that’s totally (pwedeng mag-mura?) xxx-d up. and we’ve heard so many other true to life stories who hid their sexuality only to end up in some broken marriages.
i won’t tell parents how to treat theirs gay kids. i’m no parent and i’m not a book. what i know is that, it xxx-kngly hurts to be ostracised by society for reasons not our own doing.
recently, one ugly homophobic from filipino voices did just that to me. his name? patricio mangubat. none of you will be able to relate with this anyway. but we are alive and we are in the crowd and we are as much a builder and contributors to society in a positive way. yes, there are those who brings negative things to gays and so are straight people. there’s no exclusivity to bad apples.
we’re just like straight people. we don’t get erection for every male we see like all straight that are not attracted to every female part they see. we have brains, we have intellect, we are human capable of loving and rearing another human being, we are just another one of every average 2 legged human being walking on earth
in pinoy blogosphere, it’s interesting how some straight people challenge me yet they could not even come close to my achievement. sorry for the droplet.
ok lang magka anak ako ng gay kasi di naman kasalanan yun diba? ang kasalanan lang naman is if gagawa xa ng masama.. ang gulo
pero cool ako jan.. anak ko pa din yun kahit balibaligtarin pa laman loob nya ahehehe..
We are in the world were open mindedness is beginning to shape up and I think it is a good thing. Take care!
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if we will use the Bible as standard, ay wala pong gay or homosexual kundi lalaki lang at babae. The problem is that ang tao ay nag-iisip ng kakaiba. Ang lalaki tried to be a woman, vv.
So, if we want to please God. bilang magulang, kailangan nating turuan ang ating mga anak ng tama…. so kung lalaki anak natin, kailangan natin silang i-guide sa tamang gawin at tamang pag-uugali na akma sa mga lalaki.
But malakas ang impluwensya sa labas ng family…. Well, kung tayong mga magulang ay magaling magdisiplina ng anak ay mananaig pa ang ating pagtuturo sa kanila kaysa impluwensya ng ibang tao.
At best way na dapat gawin ng bawat naniniwala sa Diyos ay ang manalangin.
God bless