Battered Wives: Not Just a Problem of Physical Abuse
I believe I don’t need to present statistics for us to realize that the number of battered wives is increasing everyday. This global problem of women from their husbands is getting worst than we can ever imagine, considering that a lot of them are not taking any action. Some of them are ignoring the issue, and are just hiding their problems.
One of the primary reasons may be due to poverty, and the fear of losing the sole provider of the family. In addition, some women fear that they are the weaker sex especially if they have a lower education than their husbands. I may have tackled before on how to know if you are a potential battered wife, but it is different when it is already happening.
First of all, your husband doesn’t need to hurt you physically before you can call yourself as a battered wife. The mere fact that your voice has no right to be heard is more than enough to tell that you are becoming a victim. Marriage is unity of two voices and therefore, it is equally important that you also have the freedom to talk. Otherwise, you can call that a monopoly.
If this is happening, you will start to lose your self-respect in which your children will also notice. Then later on, they will also disrespect you. Time will come that no one at home will listen to you, even your dogs. Therefore, you cannot also be a good mother to your children. You will not be able to teach them to respect others especially women, and that’s a more serious problem.
Hearing hurting words is worst than physical abuse, simply because it hurts your heart. It can leave a deep scar that will never heal, and you will start to pity your self. It can even lose your mind and tend to be suicidal. Therefore, you should not wait for it. Although prayers can help a lot, you should also take some actions. You must act fast before it will be too late.
The first thing that you can do is to talk to your husband in a civil behavior. Ask him why he is doing this to you, and be eager to listen to him. If he cannot be man enough to talk to you in a nice way, then it is his problem and not yours. For all you know; he might be hiding something and just using it as a defense mechanism.
If things are getting worst, find people who can help you. Some wives are hiding their marital problems from their parents in which I believe is wrong. You can also share it with your in-laws but make sure they will not be bias. Friends can also help as long as they are trustworthy. If you can afford to have one, consult a professional marriage counselor. But then, there are also non government organizations that are willing to help you for free.
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abuse is not limited to physical abuse, emotional torture is also among the many things that is considered under abuse.
the primary cause of all this is that these abused women lack the economic power to stand on their own. as long as a woman is dependent on her husband, nothing can change. and as long as they wanted to stay in such horrible situations, nobody can do anything for them.
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Personally, I guess battered women exists because there are husbands who loves to overpower their wives.
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the greatest pain on this issue is the wounded spirit that takes so many long years to heal, while others does not really heal.
but the issue also takes us to the core of asking, how are these abusive husbands reared by their parents?
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Hi Angel,
How are you and the family? You got a good post here. While woman can not do anything to change their husband, they can do something to change themselves and prevent further harm.
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I wonder what’s the reason behind the numbers going up. I mean by all logic it should be going down – women are less scared of reporting it, there’s the internet… I’m surprised.
Ouch…I really wonder why some husbands have the guts to physically hurt their wives?Have they ever forget the promise they’ve made in front of the priest during there marriage?
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The Government in all countries must have a heavy punishment on those people who treats women badly.I think with that heavy punishment most men won’t even land a hand on women.
Another important problem is that the kids brought up in a house like that will learn that violence is something normal. And the circle of violence will continue.