Why Parents should say Sorry to their Children
Last time, my daughter left a comment on my post while doing her homework in a Internet Cafe. However, I told her it would not be possible since she used a different username. But when I checked it the next day, it was valid and I gladly approved it. When I fetched her from school, I apologized to her and her classmate was surprised as if her parents never said sorry to her.
Committing mistakes is common to human, and being a parent is not an excuse. But unfortunately, some parents don’t say sorry to their children. I don’t know their reasons for not doing so, but I still respect them. Maybe they think that they are superior, or because of pride, or maybe they are not used to it since childhood. However, I think it’s about time that they understand the reasons why they should and here are some of them.
Setting a good example
Basically, all our actions are being imitated by our children since we are their first teachers. Parents cannot teach their children to say sorry if they don’t do it, and they may passed it to their children too. Although we are not perfect, we should be careful on what we say or do since our children learn things from us even though we don’t teach them. Parents are also like leaders, which is why even presidents should also say sorry to their countrymen once there are issues against them.
Act of kindness
Saying sorry means you are kind enough to accept your mistake, and our children will like us more if we are vocal about it. Although silence can also be a sign, it is really better if we say it because children can only assume based on what they see and hear. If your child realize that you are kind, they will trust you and can easily say sorry too. However, don’t expect that your apology will be accepted immediately. You should wait patiently and never try to bribe him.
Additional bonding
After your child acknowledged your apology, both of you will smile and can create additional bonding moments. You may start telling your child other related stories, and your child will enjoy your company. She will realize that you are willing to make up with your fault, although the mistake is very simple and unintentional. In addition, she will learn to forgive and learn from your mistakes, and understand that life is not just about good things.
However, you should be sincere when you say sorry and it must come from your heart. Look at your child’s eyes while you say it so she can feel your sincerity. And of course, you must do better next time to avoid making the same mistakes again.
So fellow parents, I suggest that you start now or I will be sorry for you.
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I don’t find it hard saying ’sorry’ to my kids, especially when I know that I really failed them…
Great words of wisdom Angel. Totally agree with you that we should apologize to our children for our mistakes. Otherwise, they will always remember it and even refer to you as sometimes being “bad”.
Saying sorry to our children is a good practice to show to our children themselves how asking forgiveness is very important coz they felt it themselves.
It’s funny to realize something after reading a certain post. I read this post yesterday, when I found your blog while in the process of writing an article. In the evening after that, our son was crying because her mom won’t give in to his “unreasonable” request. We sorted things out (after explaining why he can’t have it) and he calmed down. After saying sorry to me and my wife, he said, “Mom, you should say sorry to me”, dahil hindi nabigay ang hiningi nya. Thanks for this post, pre.
Parents are the best teachers to their kids. It is therefore advisable that if we want our kids to behave well we, ourselves should behave. Thanks for sharing an interesting post. By the way, these best gifts that you could give your better-half might interest you too. Thanks and have a nice and fulfilling day.