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Yesterday, I received an email from a housewife who is having a hard time convincing his husband to her to work even from home. Unfortunately, I accidentally deleted her message before I can make a reply. Luckily, I was able to dig the archives of my older blog and found this post. I just hope she will be back to my blog so she can read this.

Anyway, let us admit the world is still suffering from financial crisis which means that all of us have to work hard to make a living. Although I prefer women to stay at home as plain housewives, I also respect their decision if they want to work. I even admire their willingness to help their husbands to add income for the family.

However, I know how hard it is to convince a husband who is earning good money and wants his children to have a full time mother. Likewise, there are husbands who are afraid that someday their wives might earn more money than they do and their ego will be hurt. With this, here are some helpful ways to convince him that there is nothing to worry about.

Convince yourself first

Ask yourself repeatedly. Do you really want to work or are you just getting bored inside the house? Do you want to work because you want to pursue a career or you just want to make money for yourself? Is it really the best thing to do right now? Are you willing to sacrifice a bit of your time for your children? Remember that working will be an additional task for you and it will be very hard for you, especially if it will be your first time. Doing what you really want to do is very rewarding, but it is different when you will do something because you need to.

Find the right timing

This is very important since you are like convincing someone to buy something he does not really need. Some of the good timings can be your anniversary, your birthday when he will ask what gift you would like to receive. Be sure he is in sweet mood, and it is also better if you mention about it when you are alone to be able to discuss it better. If you submit a proposal at the wrong time, chances are you will be declined and will find yourself a hard time to raise the issue again.

Lay down the terms

It is also important that your husband knows the limits of your job to-be. This includes the salary and the time you will be consuming. The company name and the place will also matter because you still have other responsibilities at home. More importantly, who’s going to take care of the children if you are not available? You should be able to prove to him that it has more advantages rather than disadvantages especially if it comes to your health and time for the family. Furthermore, be honest about the facts because exaggerating them will make you suffer later on.

Do not push him

Do not force him to allow you. Remember that there are always two sides of a coin. He may be looking on a different angle and you should understand his points. If you will have to debate with him, so be it. But be sure it will be a friendly one, and be happy that he is your critic instead of just following everything that you like to do. In short, discuss it in the most civil way and meet halfway. Pushing him is like inviting him to a fight. You want to work because you want to solve a problem, and not adding on it.

Have an alternative

If you really feel that your husband will not allow you because he is afraid that nobody will be left at home, then provide an alternative. You can work at home and there are a lot ways to do it especially now that there is Internet. Know your hobby and study about it. Then have it as your second proposal, and I am quite sure that your husband will agree this time. The only factor he will be concern of is how you organize your time especially in terms of looking after your children. But again, you must consider all the tips mentioned above.

With all of the above, I still believe that respect for each other and good communication between couples always produce a positive result.

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