When the Father is not a Good Provider
After 26 long years, I never imagine myself going back to my very first job. Sad to say, I am a street vendor again. Who would think that I finished a degree in Engineering, passed the board exam, and worked for different companies for 16 years? It is just unfortunate that I am still having a hard to find a job, considering that I started searching 7 months ago. Well, I think the nearest answer is that employers prefer younger applicants plus the fact that it is really difficult to find a job these days.
I am now selling toys balloons in the busy streets of Tanauan and Lipa City, Batangas, and I do not consider myself now as a good provider. As a father, it worries me more than it hurts my pride. I don’t have anything against street vendors, but I wish I can find a better source of income. Anyway, I know there are other fathers like me and maybe even worst. Unfortunately, I am seeing negative attitudes by some of them. Well, this post is for them and hope they will find this useful.
Don’t add another problem
I am being amazed how some jobless fathers can still drink from morning till night. I know how hard they are going through, but trying to forget your problem is not the solution. I also see some of them staying at home doing nothing, and not even making temporary solutions. There are others who still feels like a king, and cannot accept that their wives are the ones making more money. These days, it does not matter who’s the breadwinner. It is much better that your wife is working rather than nobody is making money at all.
Change your career plan
What will you do if there’s no job available for your course or chosen career? Well, change your career plan. These days, we need to learn to be flexible enough and should easily adopt other working environment. Swallow your pride, and think about your family. However of course, don’t venture into something that you are not prepared. But more importantly, don’t try activities that will compromise your health and safety. I don’t care if my former subordinates see me in the streets, since I am doing this for my family.
Be a good father
Not being a good provider does not mean you cannot be a good father. You can help your children with their homework, or take good care of them while your wife is working. Instead of being irritated at home, spend quality time with your family. If your children are already young adults, you can share your experience to them when you were younger. This way, they will have a guide on their future decisions in life. You’ll be surprise that your children will still be proud of you someday.
Never lose hope
This is the best advise, so far. Never lose hope and think that there are still a chance for you, just waiting to be discovered. It is not the end of the world for you, my friend. Instead of just staying at home, visit your friends you think that can help you. Remember that all the things happening to us depends mostly on the decisions we make. Have a strong faith to your self, and pray hard whatever religion you belong to.
As for me, I am motivating myself and I am working hard to be a good provider. While I am looking for a job, I am very much open to any kind of money making opportunity whether online or off line. Besides blogging and being a street vendor, I hope I can add more ways to make a living.
I just wish that time will be soon.
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So much wisdom in this post Angel. I salute you. I would like to add that positive people usually attract positive vibes too.
Way to go and keep it up!
Good luck with all of your present and future endeavors.
Ms. Jena,
Thanks for the additional tip, as well as for the further motivation.
Very inspiring post!
Some points here:
“I am now selling toys balloons in the busy streets of Tanauan and Lipa City, Batangas, and I do not consider myself now as a good provider”
>> Don’t pity yourself Sir Angel. Just keep going. You should be proud of what you’re doing. You may not be as fortunate as other prominent engineers out there but you can try other things other than being an engineer. You’re selling balloons you said, why not make a marketing strategy to boost your business? diversify your business, make party balloons or sell other stuff. Remember: “Great things start from small beginnings”.
You’re right when you said, “What will you do if there’s no job available for your course or chosen career? Well, change your career plan.”
>> That’s the spirit! Keep it up.
“Not being a good provider does not mean you cannot be a good father.”
>> You’re absolutely right! Marami d’yan mayayaman naproprovide lahat na material na bagay but still they failed to be a good father.
“Never lose hope and think that there are still a chance for you, just waiting to be discovered.”
>> Amen!
Ingat po!
I agree being a good father is not measured by how much he can provide, same way a husband’s worth can not be measure by the amount of paycheck he gives his wife.
But still we all have to do our best to work hard and make a living.
Nice post here!
Hi Sir Angel!
Another great post… especially one that comes from the heart…
Just hang in there Sir Angel, you will make it through… I just know you will
haaay. kayang kaya natin yan! sir angel! ang ganda po ng mga articles nio!
I don’t consider it as not good provider. Not good provider for me is the persons that what you have mentioned,instead of find the way to earn they choose to drink and waste their time for nothing.
Little or small amount of income as long as you are trying your best to provide something for your family. And the emotional support you giving them is what I call a good provider.
Good luck then and keep on praying. He will make the way.
ArJay – Thanks for your sound advice. But anyway, just to let you know that I don’t pity myself. In fact, my spirit is very much alive.
Thanks also to others who loved this post.
You are an entrepreneur! That’s the positive side of your current job.
Thanks for the encouragement, my good friend Mr. Art. Actually, I can say that I am really aspiring to be a successful entrepreneur someday.
Sir Angel i think your still a good provider because you work hard for your family. Well, i need to admit that i know some fathers that do not actually act like one. That’s not cool!
Sir Angel
Saludo ako sayo, huwag mawalan ng pag asa magiging maayos ang lahat in His time at you’re a good provider at father dahil iilan lang ang may lakas ng loob gumawa ng paraan para sa pamilya niya kahit masagasaan pa ang pride nila. Hanga ako sa iyo sir Angel at I’m praying na makakaraos din kayo God Bless po
I was going to write a similar blog concerning this topic, you beat me to it. You did a nice job! Thanks and well add your rss to come categories on our blogs. Thanks much, Jon B.find a job