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To have a happy marriage, trust is being earned, and not being bought nor being forced. The problem in building trust in a marriage is that they are two different individuals, and most of them they did not grow up together. It is only love that makes them one, and this love will not grow without complete trust. Remember that trust does not only include being faithful to your spouse, but also about everything concerning your marriage. So if you wonder how trust makes a marriage last, here are some of my thoughts.


Act on promises

Sometimes, we make colorful promises just to please our spouse. But in reality, you do not even know how to fulfill it. It is nice to share your dreams with your spouse, but it must be seen through actions. Promises do not only include loyalty, but also the plan for your children and for their welfare. Show to your spouse that you are working hard to reach your dreams, and you are not afraid to face challenges.

Do not live in the past

Trust includes forgiveness. There will always be petty mistakes in a marriage, but you should not bring old issues over and over again. Do not show discouragement from a past failure. Instead, show your spouse that it is the failure that will make your relationship stronger. Small mistakes are not conclusions for not giving another chance. It is hard to trust a person who cannot live for the future.

Look at the mirror

Instead of expecting perfection from your spouse, why don’t you look at yourself in the mirror? There is no such thing as a perfect spouse. But if you continue to improve yourself, your spouse will be doing the same. Temptations are everywhere and you may never know you might be the one who will bring dishonor to the family in the future. Giving trust is also being reasonable. Being trustworthy is contagious.

Initiate the trust

You do not expect your spouse to trust you if you are not initiating it. Trust is give and take and not vice versa. Do not act like you own your spouse. Money will be a delicate issue without trusting each other. Although you must be careful in handing the budget, it is not right to count every cent that your spouse is spending. It is not also right that you monitor the activities of your spouse. This is where trust will start to end.

Invest time and effort

Trust is an investment and will grow as time goes by. It needs time and effort. Increase trust to each other on a daily basis. As you go along you will be discovering more things about your spouse that is worth to trust for. Do not be stagnant in trusting your spouse. Setting a limit cannot be called trust. Trust is a continuous effort and must be shared by both parties. But be careful not to loose it. Unlike business, trust is not negotiable. You cannot re-gain it one hundred percent.

Trust completes the love to make a marriage last.

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