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According to Wikipedia, helicopter parenting happens when parents pay extremely close attention to their child’s or children’ experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions. But why do some parents tend to be overprotective? Or are they just sensitive enough to protect their children?

I must admit, I went to my daughter’s school a few months ago after she complained that her male classmate hit her shoulders really bad. Then, I realized that there is something I should do rather than to sound like an overprotective parent.


My daughter is only 13, and she is very much enjoying her youth. It was not the first time she complained about being harassed, but I thought they were just part of growing up and still playing around. The last time she was hit, I knew I have something to do and I did it.

I talked to the teacher and confirmed if she knew the problem, and what she will do. According to her, she asked my daughter to make a report about the incident and pass it to the Guidance Counselor’s office. But then, I cannot help but talk to that naughty boy who hurt my daughter. He was as big as me although he is only 14.

He comes from a higher class clan, but it looks like he has a problem within his own family. He has previous records that concern bullying others, which means my daughter was not his first victim. Eventually, that boy was suspended for a couple of days for his act. So far, I never heard him hurting my daughter again or anyone else.

Then, I realized that helicopter parenting is not just a problem of overprotective parents. It is also a concern of knowing what will possibly happen to our child when he is away from us. It is not enough that we put trust in their teachers that they can protect them while they are in school. It is our responsibility as parents to make preventive measures before something bad will happen to them.

To do this, we must remind our child how to safe at school. She can do this even without learning Tae kwon-do or rather forms of self-defense, although it will be helpful. But then, I think it is about being smart and be a keen observer in her surroundings. We must accept the fact that the world is not perfect, and we cannot always be there to protect them.

In addition, we are also teaching them how to be independent especially if they are on their early teens. It feels embarrassing to them if they are still being closely watched at their age. However, reminding them always may hurt their ears and we have to understand them too. Our children also need trust from us, and reminders should be done in different manners.

Similarly, we should also have a good relationship with their teachers since they will be the second parents of your children. Students need extra curricular activities too, and teachers will play a big part on such activities. Therefore, teachers need information from parents to serve as guide before they offer different activities to their students.

Lastly, it is a must that we parents should protect our children at all times. But then, we cannot do it alone. If we don’t trust our children nor anyone else, there is a big chance that we become overprotective which might create a bigger problem in the future.

Rebellion is the enemy of freedom.

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