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About a decade ago, I met a second cousin for the first time who later on became my co-employee. He was still single then and eventually had our co-employee his girlfriend. A few months later, I learned that he got her pregnant and they got married. However, I assume that both of them were not yet prepared to have a married life.

Later, I learned that my cousin had an affair with another girl and his wife discovered it. Since I was considered as their family friend, his wife consulted her problem to me.

“Should I forgive my cheating husband?” she asked. I know only she can answer that question, but I asked her a couple of questions to serve as guide before making a decision. If you’re now in the same situation, this post might help you.


How did he cheat you?

I know this will hurt you more, but it is still important that you know how the cheating happened. Did he plan it because he found an attractive girl? Is it just a one night stand and your husband did not see her again? Was the cheating very obvious that he do not care if you learn about it? If his intention was really to hurt you, there might be a problem within your marriage and cheating is his way to escape.

Was he sincere when he asked for forgiveness?

Men can easily say sorry if they were caught cheating, while most of them even deny it until they die. Was your husband sincere when he asked for forgiveness? Did your husband intend to hide it from you forever? Some husbands may not be very vocal on asking for forgiveness, but their actions show that they are very sorry for their mistakes. If your husband does not seem to feel any guilt, then there is a big chance that he will cheat again.

How are you as his wife?

I know your husband may use this as an alibi, but how are you as his wife? Is he a priority in your life, or just a companion at home? Are you a nagging wife and always hurt his ego? Are you a suspicious wife? Do you care for his feelings, or all you do is take but not give? Some husbands cheat because they are looking for attention and found someone who can have time for them.

Can you give him another chance?

While asking yourself if you should forgive your husband or not, ask yourself if you can give him another chance. Some wives forgive their husbands but still file a divorce, but there are wives who choose to save the marriage only for the sake of their children. I truly believe that a marriage exits because the couples love each other, not because they are parents. After all, a cheating husband does not mean he cannot be a good father.

Forgiving a cheating husband is a personal choice, and should not be influenced by anyone. It may take time for you to decide whether you should forgive him or not, so do not pressure yourself.

By the way, my cousin was forgiven and they stayed together until I separated from my work a year after. We lost communication for five years, and met again two years ago. Although my cousin did not admit it, I noticed that he is now separated from his wife. He said his wife has been working abroad for years, and he avoids his marriage to be talked about.

Wounds can easily be healed if they are being treated with care rather than by natural curing.

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