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Having a teenage child may be exciting as you can see yourself in her or him when you’re at the same age. But being a parent, it is very important that you observe and analyze their attitude especially towards themselves. This will be their asset when they grow older.

One of them is self-esteem which means confidence and satisfaction in oneself, and having self-respect as well. Since I also have a 14-year old daughter, I have been searching about this topic lately.

With this, here are some of the things I learned on how to know if a teenage child has low self-esteem. Read the rest of this entry »

These days, a lot of people are still losing their jobs due to various reasons. Some are being informed at least one week before while there are those being caught by surprise. The last one is more shocking though, and harder to accept.

Being the father or the only breadwinner in the family, it is such a bad day for you and you do not even know how to tell it to your family. But of course, they must know about it and you cannot hide it.

Some people might think that this is a simple problem, but it is actually not. If not being done properly, the problem may only worsen.

With this, here are my ideas on how to tell your family that you lost your job. Read the rest of this entry »

I must admit, I now belong to those parents bringing home office work and it breaks my heart. However, I felt I had no choice since my time at the office seems not to be sufficient to finish all the reports.

Maybe I need to improve myself in terms of time management, but still I know the job has to be done. I know that there are other parents like me who sacrifice their time for family just to finish the job, especially the school teachers.

Nevertheless, below are some tips so you and your children will not be totally disappointed. Read the rest of this entry »

Just like in the office or in school, a family meeting is being held to make some agreements as well as to settle some disagreements. It is also a time to share some thoughts and opinions, talk about solutions to family problems, and to make the family closer.

Although a family meeting is more applicable to a big family and with grown up children, I think it should be done by every family. Therefore, it is very important to know how to make a family meeting work and will serve its purpose.

Since it is the parents who usually preside the family meeting, here are some of my suggestions on what they should do before, during the meeting, and how to end it. Read the rest of this entry »

After 26 long years, I never imagine myself going back to my very first job. Sad to say, I am a street vendor again. Who would think that I finished a degree in Engineering, passed the board exam, and worked for different companies for 16 years? It is just unfortunate that I am still having a hard to find a job, considering that I started searching 7 months ago. Well, I think the nearest answer is that employers prefer younger applicants plus the fact that it is really difficult to find a job these days.

I am now selling toys balloons in the busy streets of Tanauan and Lipa City, Batangas, and I do not consider myself now as a good provider. As a father, it worries me more than it hurts my pride. I don’t have anything against street vendors, but I wish I can find a better source of income. Anyway, I know there are other fathers like me and maybe even worst. Unfortunately, I am seeing negative attitudes by some of them. Well, this post is for them and hope they will find this useful. Read the rest of this entry »

In most cases, there is a black sheep in the family or someone is most likely going to be. Actually, there are a lot of reasons for this problem and one of them could be having a lot of children in the family. However, this is not always true as this can also happen even if you only have two children.

Jealousy is the primary reason why a child can be a black sheep someday, which is why parents should be sensitive about this. Some children are good in hiding it that makes it a more serious problem. The film The Good Son starring Macaulay Culkin is a story about the evil things a jealous child can do. But for the meantime, here are some parenting tips that can help you. Read the rest of this entry »

Yesterday, I saw on national TV that Rustom Padilla has finally changed his name to Bebe (not sure if I wrote it correctly). If you don’t know him, he is a good actor and was formerly married to a good actress but eventually discovered and admitted to everyone that he is a gay. I am not really fond of Showbiz scoops and intrigues, but I love reality and this post is not about Bebe. This is about having a gay in the family.

We all know that gays are now getting a lot of exposure, and the Filipinos are now starting to give them a wider space. So, what’s the point? Are we getting worst? Are the parents of today neglecting their children or just more open to reality? These are only some of the questions that the answers will depend on how you see things. Read the rest of this entry »

Guess who is in the picture below? You’re right. It’s me when I was around 4 years old, and I love sharing it online. This is because this photo tells a lot about my life story. I am not ashamed to tell everybody that I grew up in a broken family. I even shared it in a two-part interview here and here.

I knew the whereabouts of my mother when I was 19. But I was already 23 years old when I met her for the first time. That meeting was a tough one, just like the ones you watch on a TV drama series and movies. As expected, problems lead to another problem and another. Both of us were enjoying our silly ego, and none of us would want to give in.

However, this post is not just about me. This is about all the parents who once lost their child, and now has the opportunity to be with him again. Unfortunately, your child is now a total stranger. Many things had changed after all those years, and both of you may not be ready to accept that. Before you lose him again, you might want to consider some important things. Read the rest of this entry »